I happened to pick up in the article the neutral pronoun and have avoided it, but to accuse a pretty casual use of a prounoun as being a shitty thing to do is… a shitty thing to do.
Why should misgendering be treated with more respect than the respect given?
Incidentally, I hate the plural pronoun as the stand in for unspecified. Especially when talking about a company versus an individual, it is useful to use the plural to refer to company and a singular for the individual. Otherwise it’s a vague mess. It’s so confusing when folks are using plural to refer to singular people.
Sorry but they has always been both singular and plural.
‘Can you flag the waiter when they’re not busy?’ Has always been grammatically correct. Its always been the ‘I’m not sure option’. You don’t say he/she when you don’t know how to refer to someone, you use they.
Just because you didn’t intend to disrespect someone, doesnt mean you didn’t. Impact over intent every time. Its a shitty thing to do. So someone should kiss your ass and hold your hand through misgendering someone?
Your personal gripes about they are frankly just your opinion on them, and I’m not givibg it more weight that that.
Like I said in a different reply,
This is people asking for the respect and thought to you know, check a profile before you speak. No one here got offended, it was called out as a dick move, as it should have been.
If you don’t see that as basic respect, thats part of the problem.
EDIT: it’s the same level of respect as spelling someone’s name correctly.
Its kinda shitty thing to do. Mistakes happen, but it says a lot when people dig their heels in.